Why Do I Feel Like This?

Why Do I Feel Like This?

Sometimes, life just feels heavy.

You might be eating well and exercising, yet still find yourself feeling flat, irritable, anxious, or unmotivated. So what’s going on?

The truth is, our mood is influenced by a complex web of factors — and most people aren’t taught how to unravel it.

This blog explores some of the hidden reasons behind “why you feel like this” and offers a clearer understanding of how to navigate your mental and emotional state.

Let’s Start With the Common Contributors

Before diving into deeper emotional work, it’s worth checking if you’re simply out of alignment.

You might feel tired, snappy, flat, overwhelmed — and think something’s wrong with you. But often, there’s just a buildup of underlying stress.

These contributing factors can pull you away from your natural rhythm:

• Mental overload – Too many tabs open in the mind

• Physical exhaustion – Running on caffeine and autopilot

• Disconnection – Feeling emotionally cut off from others or shut down

• Overstimulation – Constant noise, distraction, and screen time

• Under-nourishment – Eating on the run, lacking real fuel

When these layers pile up, they start to shape how you think, feel, and respond — often without you realising. You might find yourself reacting in ways that don’t feel like you. That’s because, in a sense, it isn’t.

It’s an altered version of you — one that’s out of alignment or “not my authentic self” as some clients put it.

And when you’re not operating as your best self, it’s easy to spiral. That’s why checking back in with the basics is important — not as a solution, but as a reset.

Beyond the Basics: What Else Affects Mood?

Once those surface-level issues are checked, you can start exploring the deeper influences that shape how you feel day-to-day:

⏰ Circadian Disruption
Shift work, poor sleep hygiene, or irregular routines can disrupt your natural rhythm and throw off mood stability. Being on devices before bed is very common.

🧠 Cognitive Distortions
Thought patterns like catastrophising, black-and-white thinking, or personalising can create unnecessary emotional turbulence. These distortions are common, but they can be questioned and corrected with practice.

💭 Attachments & Expectations
Many people feel disappointed or resentful because reality isn’t matching up with their internal expectations. Seeing clearly — and separating what’s real from what’s preferred — is a key part of emotional maturity.

🌿 Nervous System Dysregulation
When your body is stuck in fight, flight, or freeze, you’re more likely to feel anxious, agitated, numb or flat. Regulating the nervous system — through breathwork, movement, or grounding practices — can make a big difference.

🧘‍♂️ Unprocessed Emotion
Sometimes the mood you’re feeling isn’t random — it’s a backlog of emotion that hasn’t been felt, acknowledged, or released. Sadness, frustration, grief, fear — they’re all visitors. But when we suppress them, they tend to linger.

It’s Not Just in Your Head

The modern world often treats emotional discomfort like a glitch — something to fix or distract ourselves from.

But every mood is a message. Your body and mind are always trying to communicate with you.

Sometimes the message is: “You need rest.”
Other times: “You’re out of alignment.”
And often: “There’s something here you haven’t faced yet.”

Getting Back Into Shape (Mentally)

Mental and emotional strength doesn’t happen by accident — it’s something we can build, one step at a time.

With awareness, practice, and patience, we can retrain the way we think, feel, and respond.

It’s not about “feeling good” all the time — it’s about being human and experiencing the range of emotions we have, without being consumed by them.

Final Thought

If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why do I feel like this?” — the good news is, there’s always a reason. It’s not that something is wrong with you. It’s often just a sign that you’re out of alignment or balance.

You’ve drifted from your natural rhythm.
From your grounded state.
From your authentic self.

Some people describe this journey as “coming home”.

And what does that mean?

It means coming out of your head and back into your heart.
Back to who you are beneath the noise, the pressure, and the stress.
Returning to the version of you that feels clear, steady, and connected.

Not perfect. Just present.
Not in control. Just in reality.
Not fixed. Just free.

You don’t need to figure it all out overnight.
You just need to start listening — and responding — with care.